Hey so I like this girl, but she use to date this other girl and I feel like I’m second best to her really. I know that’s really toxic to think but Idk how to feel. Some people make her seem amazing and I just don’t feel good enough for the girl I like.
Never compare yourself. Comparing yourself to others does nothing but make you feel worse. The truth is, everyone is different so there’s no use in comparing yourself. You and you, and there’s no one else quite like you. You have qualities that so many people adore, even if you don’t see them yourself. There is a reason people like being around you, anon. Whether this girl returns your feelings or not, try not to focus so much on it. I know right now it feels like the most important thing to you, but in the grand scheme of things it’s not as important as you think it is! There’s so many things in your future, I promise!
I'm in a lot of pain. I got really harshly dumped by my first love after we were together for a year, he moved away and now won't talk to me, despite the "we can stay friends" thing. It's been six months since it happened and I just can't see myself moving forward, but I know in the grand scheme of life that really isn't that much time. I'm 18 and have a lot more time. Has anyone thought for a long while that they would do anything for someone to come back and then gotten past it later in life?
I can’t speak from experience (haven’t dated before) but I can guarantee you almost everyone here can relate to this. You will move on, you will find someone you’ll settle down with and I promise everything will eventually get better for you. It takes time to move on from someone. You’re right, you’re 18. So young! You have soooo much to look forward to 🥰
this is upsetting but i need to vent on it, last year i convinced myself looking at nsfw art of minors who were a year older than me or below was okay due to how i was a minor and so were they and i at the time found them attractive i was 16 at the time turning 17 in a couple months and looking back i'm really grossed out i ever even did it because i know who it for and i knew it wasnt okay i just feel sick and i wont do it again it started as 18+ and i got shown minors too and im grossed out
If I’m being honest, I don’t find that gross or weird because you were a minor yourself. If you were an adult, sure, but you weren’t so I don’t think you have any reason to be angry with yourself anon. No worries!!
Though you’re totally right, that kind of art is typically consumed by predators and they shouldn’t be drawn in such a way, period. But anon, you’re not a bad person at all! Please don’t worry!
My friend moved in my apartment a while ago and theyre dating my friend. I sleep on the couch when they're here so they can sleep together on my bed few meters away from me and they keep having sex on it when im in the same room and they know im awake. I feel so uncomfortable everytime we have to go sleep bc I'm scared they'll do it again. Im so anxious all the time and I just wanna go somewhere else
Definitely talk to them about this. They need to respect you and I find it disturbing that they would do this if I’m being honest! You definitely need to let them know you’re uncomfortable with them doing this. It’s nice of you to offer your bed them, but the fact that they do sexual acts on your it is just… not ok and frankly, kind of gross /:
My question is is your advice box closed still or is still open since you open your ask again. Thanks for all your help.
Yes, if you can send me asks then it’s open again. But now that I’ve just opened it, I now have a ton of asks in a short amount of time.
It seems like this blog has reached its previous momentum before I left tumblr, which is great! But it now means I don’t think I can get to everyone anymore. I’m focusing on finding a new job, which will take up even more of my time. I don’t think it’s realisticof me to be able to answer everyone from now on. I will still try my best, but I don’t want to make promises I can’t keep.
hey, where i live (in France) in your last year of middle school you need to do a traineeship to see how peoples work to prepare yourself to be an adult and i did mine Monday and it's ended today and i know it's really dumb but i'm gonna miss the people i worked with and it's stupid that i only realised that during the last hour of my last day.
Awww… I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself, anon! I think it’s understandable that you’d miss them. But remember that, in the future, you’re gonna meet all kinds of people that you’ll create many wonderful experiences with! Look forward to that (:
